Once you learn of the death it is nice to visit with the family and offer your condolences if possible. For this visit it is always nice to bring along a food dish of some sort to help the family during the initial shock. If you are close to the family these visits can happen often to offer more support. During these visits you might find that the family does not want to take about the deceased or they may just need you to listen to them as they recall fond memories. Each person deals with death in their own way.

If there is a wake and you attend the first people you should speak to is the immediate family. If you only knew the deceased and not the family make sure to introduce yourself. When speaking with the family you should offer your condolences. If you feel comfortable viewing the body you can do so at this time. The amount of time you stay at the wake is up to you.

When attending a funeral the times have changed as far as what you should wear. Black is no longer the color that you must wear. You can also wear other dark colors such as browns and blues. No matter what color you wear make sure that the outfit is appropriate. If you would like to update an old suit for a newer, slightly more stylish one then there are a number of sites on the internet that you can browse to find the ideal suit for you. Suitsmen.co.uk has great offers on mens suits, but if you already have a suit the site also offers cheap deals on other items of clothing that may suit your tastes such as stylish leather jackets that could also be an option to wear to the evening wake.

It is also appropriate to send flowers or some sort of other gifts such as a fruit basket or donation to the favorite charity of the deceased. These gifts are a way of showing respect for the deceased and their family. No matter what you do make sure that you offer support and kind words to the family in there of grievance.